The Talk
We Had A Good Run
After my amazing date with Mr. #BlackAF aka Menz 3 (read Part 1 and Part 2 if you missed it), my connection with Menz 2 has been on a serious decline. We have been talking less as my attention has been split between him and Menz 3 for the past week.
Menz 2 is very inquisitive and always asks lots of questions so this week he has definitely been trying to gauge where we stand. He mentioned to me several times how I am hard to read which I know to be true. This past week especially, I’ve been playing the role of the tennis ball in the match between Coco Gauff and Venus Williams.
All week he has been saying how he wants to chat. Now we ‘chat’ all the time so I’m instantly like oh this must be ‘The Talk’. I ask what he wants to talk about and he is being very elusive. He says its nothing major so I say “Ok cool we can chat tomorrow then since this isn’t urgent”. Plus I’ve been busy chatting with Menz 3 all week and things have really been heating up. That spark that I was looking for, without question I have it with Menz 3. Actually, who am I kidding me and Menz 3 have sparks, bonfires, fireworks, all dat! Lol.
Now it’s clear who I am more interested in. While Menz 2 and I have been talking longer, Menz 3 and I definitely have more of a connection. But because I’ve only been talking to Menz 3 for a week I wasn’t going to just kick Menz 2 to the curb overnight.
The next day Menz 2 called me to chat. It was late and I was still working so I asked if I could hit him up after I finished. Of course by the time I hit him back he was sleep. The next afternoon I got a long text from him basically explaining that he wanted to ‘check-in’. Asking me “do we fit?” and “are we on the same page?”. Now for the moment of truth.
I appreciate a man who is direct with his communication and asks questions even if they are uncomfortable. Now, in this situation, I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news especially becuase he really is a nice solid guy. But the truth will set you free!
I told him that I have been talking to other people and I didn’t want to mislead him and how I didn’t know if we ‘fit’. While I have enjoyed his conversation and company I said I did feel like something was missing. We had a very open conversation and I appreciated how candid we were being. It was nice to be able to have a dialogue with a guy that didn’t end with me having to block them because they couldn’t handle their feelings or control their emotions. Lordt knows my block list runneth over! Lol.
He handled it all very well and said he felt something was up but didn’t want to assume. We ended the conversation on a good note and he offered to still be my workout partner which I thought was cool. The few times we worked out he definitely got me together so I told him I just might take him up on his offer.
-Sincerely, Sis